I have been reading the posts on CSA awareness month . Almost all of them have the same voice . The parents were either ignorant or they didn’t think it is important to talk to the child or confront the culprit.
I wonder what makes parents react in that way .
Is it the guilty feeling to accept that something bad has happened to their child due to their ignorance .
Or is it shame .
Or do they believe the child should look after himself /herself and is responsible for what happened .
Or is it the reluctance to acknowledge that their loved ones can have another face .
Or is it the inability to accept that there could be dangers they are unaware of.
I think it is a mixture of every thing . And I feel strangely ashamed .
It would be a lie if I say I haven’t come across any molesters . It is impossible to grow up in this world with out confronting any . It is flooded with them and you cannot eradicate it . Not in the near future . It is all about bringing up kids with the courage to stand up to it .
My Grand mother was a real smart lady who knew how to train young girls with out making a fuss about it . She taught us to be wary of Uncles who may jump at the chance to put us on their laps , or who may hug and pinch us to show their love . She taught us to stay away from them . And to cry loudly if some thing is not right . She talked about sleazy shop keepers eager to push bangles into our hands . Through her jokes and talks she taught us in spite of being wonderful this world is not a safe place . And the simple truth that you have to learn to take care of yourself.
And I believe sexual innocence is not some thing good to brag about or a solid excuse to make when it comes to molesting and groping . Neither for parents or young girls. Awareness is awareness even when we cannot stop some thing from happening .
But with real young kids , parents/ guardians/care takers are the only ones who can take care of them. Let us Accept the responsibility . Let us not run away from it . Let us do our part and let our kids flourish in a safe environment.
I also want to bring forth the fact that it is not only the men , but women could also be child molesters . And boys and girls , both can be victims.
If not anything teach your child to use the most powerful and useful word . Teach them to say a loud ” NO” when they mean it and teach them to use it fearlessly .
I dream of a day when there would be no victims to write about their horrible experiences . A day when no child’s feelings will be left unattended by his/her parent.
This month has been selected as the ” Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month ” . Don’t be ostriches, please !