Monthly Archives: January 2010

My favourite fruit

My Favourite fruit is strawberry

It is bright red in colour

I like the sweet smell of strawberry

Like Strawberry Shortcake I decorate my cakes with strawberry

I love strawberry ice creams!

The cut out was first traced out as a single picture and then traced and cut out in the two colours. The dots are with oil pastels.

Human Body Chart

Ruby is studying about human body and is most excited about . We got a great book on human body . That too on a very good deal. It is not always that I strike a good deal in a bargain .

He wants to do the chart in the exact ‘ in viva ‘ colours and is driving me crazy. So I had to work out a lot to suggest the colours and reasons.

He has his own ideas of human functioning. And does a lot of reading on his own.

Here is one : The hair in the  nostrils  blocks the dust particles from entering the respiratory system.

Ruby’s version : The hairs in the nostrils is a car park. The dust particles park there while the air goes inside for the shopping. It comes back , gets into the car and goes out. He has got similar stories for every thing.

The intestine didn’t come out well. I forgot how to draw them. And I don’t know where my anatomy books are.

The view in a thousand years!

The solar Eclipse Day Jan 15, 2010.

As usual I heard about the eclipse only the day before. And I thought, as always it was one of those you cannot see. From the news channels I learned that it is an annular eclipse and the longest one in a thousand years !

And the central path traverses through Kerala.  To view a solar eclipse was one of my greatest wishes . When the Northern part of India witnessed a complete solar eclipse last  year I was jealous!

But then, I didn’t have any clue on how to watch this. The kids had classes  till 12.30 pm. and eclipse started at 11.30 .  Meanwhile I debated whether to cook the lunch and watched TV where they were telling about the harmful effects of the rays . I  flipped through the news paper for  the details. There also they had a list of do and don’ts .

Suddenly, a thought occured to me. What if Siva and Swetha looked directly into the sun. All through the morning they were talking about the eclipse. So I decided to go to their school. I also had in mind that they will be having some measures to view the eclipse. On my way I saw welders looking at sun from their garage. Oh ! why doesn’t I know any welder!

When I reached there, teachers and senior students were busy viewing the eclipse through solar glasses. But I felt too intimidated to go and ask. You cannot predict how weird school children may act sometimes. I even saw some of the attendants viewing it with X-ray sheets and goggles. Why are they doing this ? Don’t they know it should not be used? I tried to warn them.

When the school bell rang I saw many other students with solar glasses and managed to get one. At First I couldn’t see anything.

Then after a while ! There it was !

The eclipse had  just begun and sun looked like a  bitten apple. With the glasses the sun looked as cool as a moon. I passed the glasses to Siva and he was so excited. When I looked around, I saw that a group of kids have assembled around us for the glasses. ( Obviously only the senior students had it and the smaller children desperately wanted to have  a view! ) . I handed  it back to its owner and ran from there. Swetha started to scream as she couldn’t see it. So I went to another student with glasses and showed the eclipse to Swetha and one of Siva’s friends.

Then One of my friends called up to say that they have some arrangements to see it . So we decided to go to their place. Hubby  also joined us from his office . He is not concerned about anything other than numbers. But came with us . And we watched the sun to our fill. Saw how the shadow caste by the moon gobbles up the sun and slowly moves away.

In between,  Siva’s friend’s mother called me up to say how it can be viewed using black coloured water.

On our way back home we had some delicious chicken biriyani. And it is so against the old beliefs !  When it comes to food it is impossible to get through my hubby dear !

By the time we reached home I was so excited and was almost carried away by the eclipse. There was  half an hour left for it to complete. Like some lunatic I filled a steel plate with Siva’s black paint and went out searching for the sun’s reflection. I don’t know what gotten into me . The sun lured me like it had never before. ( I have heard that before Tsunami occured, the sea retreated almost 2-3 km and every body was lured towards it by the beauty of the bare sea bed )

I was completely out of my mind that I didn’t even care about the rays of reflection that got into my eyes. At last I found the sun’s reflection .

Siva and Swetha  joined me on the terrace . And hubby also came to see  after so much prodding. What happens in the sky doesn’t matter him at all. ” It is a pity that you cannot see the beauty in all this ” I teased him.

I even wanted to take a snap of the reflection. Yes , I was completely out of my mind!

But thank God , Unlike me My husband is sane. He bid the kids and me inside saying that rays are a bit powerful and his eyes are aching. I sent the kids inside but wasn’t yet ready to go inside myself. No, not leaving the view of a thousand years !

But while I tried to focus my camera on the reflection , one of the rays gotten into my eyes and I felt the immense heat and prick.  I silently obliged and went inside.

As always I settled before Google, my friend and mentor. So Google told me never to look at the eclipse through coloured water or reflection  and don’t try to take a snap. Your retina will get cooked without you ever knowing ( retina does not have pain receptors ) and your camera will be spoiled !

I was aghast. So why did she tell me so ? To look through coloured water ?  I never tell any body anything without cross checking.  I am sure she didn’t know about it. But awareness matters. And sanity .

I am grateful my beloved was sane enough to stop me from blinding myself and more importantly our kids.  I don’t think it would matter much if the eclipse occurs again the next day or after a thousand years if I went blind !

And it is something that I like most about him. Even though he doesn’t care much about trivial matters he lets me enjoy everything like a child ( my child instincts and fancies  are very high! )  and knows exactly when and where to stop me.

Open House

I had gone to my kids’ school for open house. Swetha ‘s teacher always have praises for her . So it is nice to hear.

When I went for the last open house I had been running around to tell every one that my child is is different and needs more help and acceptance. It wasn’t that easy. It is the first report of Siva after he started to take the resource help and after he was diagnosed with LD.

Since then our life has changed so much. We started to explore. Along with the studies our days were fun packed . We did lots of project works. Did a lot of reading.

I realised it is possible to enjoy life in full swing along with the studies and home works and daily routine and that we dont have to wait till vacation for having fun.

I had been thinking all the while Siva’s teachers will be having so many points to tell me.But his class teacher is the most relaxed and considerate teacher I have ever met. Instead of telling me anything she asked ” what you think ? How is he ?”

” Well, I am satisfied. He has improved a lot .”

Of course, That is the truth. Apart from the academics  his social skills have improved a lot since the second term. Now he has so many friends. He speaks to them. Earlier he used to be sent out of the class frequently. Got himself in so many troubles unintentionally. But not anymore.

His teacher told me that he is a good child. There is nothing you have to be worried about. Just think that he is a normal child.

His English teacher told me some very nice words that I am the one ultimately responsible for the change by coming up with the correct problem and report so they were able to understand him and they wish all the mothers to be like this . I was overwhelmed.

I thanked them for the support and care they have given to my child. And how efficiently they have brought him into the normal stream.

My whole world revolves around my kids. Sometimes I wonder what I will do once both of them would be  grown up and would not need me!

These are some precious moments when I feel , as a mother my life is worth it. I know I have a long way to go. But comments like this assures me that I am on the right track .

Hearing test.

Siva’s English teacher wants to get his hearing checked to make sure that that it is not the root of his spelling problem. And also his inability to answer spontaneously. ( His main spelling problem is with consonant blends. He will just jumble the letters. And when you ask qns he will just stare back. It is sometimes socially so embarrassing )

What the teacher says is he may be having difficulty to identify some syllables . And when I told her about his adenoid problem she was all the more convinced. ( Siva had several bleeding nose episodes and we had to pick him up from school ) .

I very much appreciate her differential diagnotic nature. She also told me it could be that he is converting the picture images in his mind into words that causes the delay. That is really good. You seldom see a teacher who has indepth knowledge about LD.I am grateful that he has teachers who are so keen and insightful.

Sometimes I have personally felt that most of them are so short sighted. When you ask a teacher ‘ how is my child’ ;  they will look into the marks and simply say ; yes, He is good. I don’t think that marks are the ultimate index of a child well being. Our ultimate aim is not make them score good marks.

After school reopening I had so many parents calling me to know about the marks. But I sort of kept low. Not b’coz Siva scored less. He has got fair grades for all the subjects. After following this unschooling principles I don’t feel marks are important anymore.

Coming back to the hearing test , I tried to tell her several times that he has got good hearing.Actually even better than any body in the house. When he was smaller I used to converse in English or Hindi if I wanted to tell anything that he should not hear. But now that is also not possible. May be I will have to learn some other language which he doesn’t know.

But she kept on asking me about the hearing test  over and over again whenever I went to meet her. And with the open house coming in two days I am too ashamed to say again that I haven’t done the tests.

So yesterday three of us went to the ENT . When I told the Doctor about his LD problem and what the teacher wanted , she only had one single question for me. Why did you think your child has LD. Now this is one most difficult qn. I have ever faced . Giftedness is a condition which CANNOT be answered in a one word.

Trying to answer the qn in the shortest way possible I said her about his spelling problems and lazy nature and moodiness. Immediately she jumped to a conclusion. You were being very strict. That is it.

I was really taken aback. May be I was a bit strict with him. But that is not the reason for his problems. .And that is not the reason why he couldn’t read and do things by himself like other kids do .That is not the reason why he suffered a lot in his early years at school.

And getting resource help is not a crime. It is just not bcoz I don’t take proper care of my child.  I always look at it in the positive way. He is having a swell time there . And his spelling and writing skills have really improved with their help.

Whether she wanted to know more about LD kids or  she wanted to know if there was a hearing problem involved I don’t know. Otherwise she was very welcoming. Some tests were done using a tuning fork .Thankfully she says my son’s hearing is okey and we shall do some other tests if the teacher again thinks it could be hearing problem.

But you normal parents out there, I will tell you one thing, Your child do everything on his own, thinks and acts and behaves on his own and you all take it for granted  so much that you will never know how difficult it is to maintain the balance with a dyslexic child.

Idle !

I feel so idle and don’t feel like writing . Right now my focus is on organising my house which I do in between, when I care to look around and see what a mess it is. I frequently forget where I keep things. So more than rearranging and organising the sole idea is to remind myself what all things I have kept in each cupboard. There will be so many discoveries and it also a time to throw away things which I have gotten over. One fine day I will stare at any of the cupboard and try to remember what all I have got in there. If  I cannot remember all the shelves I try to find out and it kicks off the whole process .This will take 1-2 weeks, by that time I will get interested in something else which I cannot predict now.

And my plants. However hard I try to stop myself  from planting new plants I cannot do it, just like I cannot switch off my computer. For a week now I have been staring at the computer with nothing particular to do. And just the same I have been staring at my plants with lots and lots of plans but doing nothing. I have been putting the fertilizers and planting new stems. I know this is not the time to plant them. But nothing can be done if my mind is set.

And we did some cooking from my old collection of  cooking recipes which I have not taken for almost three years now. Swetha is slowly getting out of her toddler tantrums and  I hope eventually we will be able to lead a life like normal people.

There are so many resolutions for me this year that I don’t know when I will forget all of them and get carried away by something else. One of the most important is to deal with my low short term memory and to keep focused on what needs to be done. Well, that is the only resolution . Every thing else will fit in that.